Coaching Businesses and Life, a view from Long Beach

How To Make Better Decisions

You know the old saying: "Two brains are better than one".  Funny thing is we technically have two brains, but that's besides the point.

How many times do you go to a friend to chat, to talk things through, to get another idea or perspective?  How many times is that friend there, or ready to be with you, or even able to stay neutral?  I was looking for someone like that but I didn't know where to turn.  Virginia practically forced me to go see a coach.  It wasn't without a huge amount of reluctance and digging my heels in the ground that I got around to it.  And when I got around to it I became humble because I realized I had looked for something for so long only to have it brought to me in a professional way.

The great thing about coaches is that they are neutral.  If they are not, then it's not my definition of a coach.  They are not your best friends but are vested in your happiness.  They are not interested in particular results (if you find one that is, caution, caution!), they are more interested in you being happy doing what you like doing most, since then your entire life becomes effortless.

As time went by I started using coaching in a more efficient way by knowing what I wanted to use that time with.  I have 30 to 45 mn and I must make the best of this idea bouncing time.  The results are great.  Greater awareness around who I really am, what I want to do in life and how to go about it.  And the best part, actually the worse for me is the accountability factor.  I have to tell them next time what I did... and sometimes, didn't.  I don't like being held accountable for things even though I do what I say I will.  I just hate the extra pressure of having to be accountable to someone.  That's probably one of the reasons why I work on my own.  As a coach, I use that accountability for those who want it and carefully maneuver around it for those like me who cringe at the thought.

Eveything I Do Fits Me

It's true, everything I do is a reflection of who I am.

I wake up and I fix Virginia's breakfast.  I like to see her off to work with the lunch I fix.  I do it gladly.  Then I go outside read a book on ancient texts with my Bose sound canceling headsets.  It reflects the quietness that I achieved in my mind and its soothes the thirst I have for that ancient, long forgotten knowledge.  Then I check email, get rid of old ones, answer new ones and set my day in a good working order.  It gives me a sense of out with the old, in with the new.  Then I browse my favorite blogs and news media source for information.  I use it for this blog or my new ElectricNick.com blog.  It's fun, it makes me think and then I get to write about it.

After this, clients call in.  It's my time away from me.  I am there for them, and we work on whatever they want to work on that day.  It feels good to remove yourself from yourself, or not to get in my way.  After this, I break for lunch and head out to the beach.  I have this perfect spot where I go and watch the waves wash up on the shore.  The perpetual rhythm is inspiring and the shades of deep blue to turquoise to aquamarine make me feel very mellow and peaceful.  Then I meditate.  I open up to that-which-is-the-source of everything I am conscious of.  It feels good.  I feel as huge as the Universe and as tranquil as the sea.  Then I lie down and sleep for ten minutes.

After that it's time for Polly's.  There I know I will get good coffee or tea and be in a neighborhood cafe that reflects me and my neighborhood with a wide variety of people, young, old, cool, un-hip, they're all here.  I get a lot of work done there with my headsets.  I write 4 to 6 posts, review the 12 week course for MyPrivateCoach.  I get to express myself.  When I'm done with working a few hours straight, I go the Belmont Athletic Club.  And there too, it's a local thing.  It fits me well also.  I work out and finally go home.  I cook for us and we set into the night.  Virginia works a little bit and I watch, what else but a Star Trek episode I borrowed from a friend?

Why am I writing this?  Because I am in integrity.  I live the life that reflects who I am.  I tap my source and every day I wake aligned to it.  How did I do it?  OK, years of research and a few coaches to get me to transition.  Ah, the wonders of being aligned within your core.

Now That You Know Who You Are, How Do You Get There

Now that you know who you are, what you are, and your deep rooted core fundamentals, how do you move forward?

Keeping in line with the idea to get outside help to kick your life and business career up a notch, it's time to design some custom tailored strategy for you.  Since you have a greater awareness around the "who" in you, and by now you know exactly what your ideal income position is, you are closer to getting that position than ever before.  OK, so no more trial & error method, you can now focus on moving to where you need to be in order to accept what you duly desire. 

By now your enthusiasm should be percolating which naturally attracts opportunities to you.   Knowing what you love and doing what you love makes you an out of contest expert in your field.  After all, we excel at what we love doing best.  But there are other by-products of being enthusiastic and attracting this good fortune, you will become far more desirable to potential customers, potential bosses and business partners.  Opportunities will seek you, because you will make them look and feel good as well as make you look naturally desirable.

This is the last part in attracting success to you by knowing what you like, and don't but also exuding that enthusiasm energy which can't help but attract opportunities to you.  This is a concrete working example on how to apply the all over-famed, over-simplified and over-talked Law Of Attraction.  Anyone interested in reading more on ancient and original text that the Law of Attraction were derived from can go to this link.  And for the rest, just contact me, we can talk about this for a while.

Kick Your Business Up A Notch

If you want to boost your horizons and go that extra step, you need to have someone to ask you those questions that get you to open up and reveal things you have not revealed to anyone before, including yourself. 

You could use that someone to bounce ideas off of and reflect those new findings back to you in order to let you discover the inner working of what makes you get up and go day after day.  Try it on safely before you go out into the world.  Give yourself that extra chance, that extra leeway.  I is important to understand your passions, your often-time self-imposed obstacles, the things you like to do as well as those you don't like, your beliefs and values, your spirituality, your core values, your talents, your priorities, etc.   Once you understand this you are better equipped to use any of them as strength to get you to where you want to go and leave those that won't serve you behind.

We live in a time and place where small businesses and entrepreneurs can custom build their ideal income position with a little help from outside.  It's all about return on investments.  How much are you willing to invest on yourself? 

It wasn't easy for me after years of business failures to invest in a coach.  It was tough but what I got out of it was exponentially worth the sum invested.  And look where I am now.  I am fulfilled and for the first time in my life I can truly say I love what I do.  How many people can claim that?  My coaches have been invaluable assets especially when it came to designing and custom building my ideal profession that fulfills my passions and keeps in line with my priorities, spirituality and the "who I am" inside.